Marriage Tune Up: How to keep your Marriage strong in times of stress.
Do you want to feel Present, Passion and Purpose?
Tune Up your marriage today………
Section 1 Cruise Control and Untuned
- Unattractive behaviours in your marriage
- Warning signs you’re in a toxic marriage
- The 4 most argued issues
- Exercise: relationship honesty
Section 2 Oil and Grease Change
- Victim or victorious marriage
- Letting go of resentment in your marriage
- Restoring sexual intimacy
- Bring your sexy back in your marriage
Section 3 Get your engines revving again
- Fall back in love with your partner
- Living with emotions in your marriage
- Living in your marriage with acceptance
- Exercise: Tune up your marriage in 7 days
All marriages and relationships go through difficult times and most of the time you are able to get through these times and come out the other side.
Sometimes we get stuck and need some support to move out of where we are.This course will support and guide you to do this.
Shining light on what you do and what you can do differently is the idea behind this course.
We sometimes get caught up with the stories in your head.This course will get you talking to each other instead of making assumptions.
Complete this course alone or with your partner it will give you tools and ideas how to do it differently. To feel Present, Passion and Purpose.
This course is for couples who are having moderate problems in their marriage and are wanting to tweak areas before they become a big problem.
Helen Harrison is qualified in Life Coaching, Counselling, Holistic Counselling, Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy. Helen is a published author, a Work shop facilitator, Speaker and the host of her own podcast the Empowered Marriage. Helen is the mother of three adult sons.
Helen’s business Power of Change Counselling & Coaching has been in operation since 2008 and she has worked with hundreds and hundreds of couples and individuals. The last three years Power of Change was named in the Top 3 for Marriage Counsellors in Brisbane City, Australia.
Life’s core experiences and wounds are universal. They touch and affect individuals of all ages, cultures, backgrounds and race. Gaining a deeper self-connection and to enrich your relationship with yourself is Helen’s driving force to create courses that empower your life.
Helen has travelled thru her own life challengers and used all the principals, tools, processors to move thru and rise above the cards she was dealt. Helen has completed hundreds of hours of personal development as well as her professional training. Helen believes you have a choice as to how you cope with life’s challengers. Taking 100% responsibility for your life’s happiness is the key and your happiness is an inside job. Committing to yourself and working on a course, embracing it and participating fully you cannot put a price on it. Breaking thru old patterns of behaviour, releasing stale old baggage and energy to make way for a fresh, energised way of being is the destination.
The course's are well designed and well-honed that has taken hundreds of hours of trial and error working with clients to find the formulae that is efficient and will give you the results you are striving and looking for.
“From Living in Survival to Passion, Peace, Power & Purpose”
Frequently Asked Questions
Tune Up your Marriage Today so you
- Have your own identity
- You are a team
- A balance between positive and negative
- Being equal
- Letting go of the expectations
1.Have your own identity: be your own person. A lot of couples when they're working with me, I go back and look at the history and go back as to when they met and how they met. And for some people it's not always the case, but for some couples, those people who have just come straight out of home and got into a relationship struggle with this.
Separating from the childhood home, the childhood life and having a good amount of time where you have separated totally is very important. You will know you are your own unique individual, authentic self. You know who you are, and you are then less likely to lose yourself. What do you enjoy? What are your hobbies? What are you passionate about? What are you motivated about?
It is about actually creating space and time to get to know yourself. And that's where spending some time alone, reflecting, journal writing, meditating, reading, podcasts getting to know yourself on a deeper level.Having your own identity and putting some energy into that if you feel like you're losing your identity.
2. You are a team: a team around the parenting, around money around all the different areas that make up a marriage. It's not for one of you to carry the load.
If you're a team you will have good communication. For a long lasting and empowered marriage, being a team is also being able to step out of the team and do things that are solely, individual is very important.
Ask yourself, are we a team or do I feel like I'm carrying a lot of the load?
You may need to start having the hard conversations. You may need to start being honest with yourself as to how you are feeling and then being able to be assertive and address it. If you find that difficult, perhaps putting it in an email or typing it and then reading it out. If you do not do that it can begin to build and can start to become quite toxic and you can begin to feel resentment. Bring it up with your partner. “I feel like we're not a team and I sort of feel quite out of balance. Can we talk about this”?
3. A balance between positive and negative:
Being able to openly express what you're feeling, positive and negative. Balance the positive with the negative, we talk about all the ranges of emotions. It’s not negative when you're having disagreements or you're having a strong reaction inside, and it's being able to openly express it, feel it and talk about it and not be concerned with your partner's reaction if they react harshly.
The resolution maybe you both agree to disagree, but you found a middle ground. So balance the positive with the negative, the positive, fun, laughter, joking. You know, all those wonderful things, they just make life fantastic when you have that in your life. However, if you're just constantly in the negative and you're not balancing it up with positive, it then becomes quite draining. That's not an empowered marriage and becomes quite toxic and tiring.
4. Being equal:
You divide up what is required in running of a household. Say for an example one of you is a foodie and this isn't gender orientated. This is about what your strengths are. You're a foodie and you’re really, good at cooking. Perhaps you'll do a bit more of the cooking. Perhaps you're the social one in the couple, so you’ll organize the social calendar. Dividing up what is needed in running a household or running a life and running a marriage.
Parenting can be a tricky one. Often the female will be with the baby and then it just begins that they take on that role. However, there needs to be a bit of an adjustment when she goes back to work and it's dividing those kids tasks up. For example, one of you may do the baths, one of you may do the reading of the bedtime story. Being able to divide those kids tasks up, then you will feel that you are more equal.
If there are things that neither of you really want to do and you can, outsource it. Get someone in once a fortnight to clean the house, a mower man etc. Its's being able to talk about it, to have good communication and do what interests you and what is of value. It's not gender, it's nothing to do with gender. It's about being able to balance it up, so you are both content and happy with the arrangement that you have.
5.Letting go of the expectations:
Letting go of the expectations that you have on your partner. When we have expectations and they're not being met, we can constantly feel that we are being let down and so we're constantly searching for that.
What results is we're not looking for the great things that are happening in the marriage. We can often feel aggravated, frustrated, angry, and resentment begins to build. It all comes down to acceptance. Being able to except your partner the way they are.
And if you are not able to do that? What choices do you have?
- Leave the marriage
- Live in the pain that you're in
- Find a way to accept it
You can accept it if you're not hitting up against your own values. However, if you are hitting up against your own values, you will find it very hard to accept and you will live in terminal.
Question, is this marriage life giving to me?
Is this marriage supporting me emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally?
Tuning up your marriage together you both benefit and feel Present, Passion and Purpose